In-Laws

So last night couldn't have gone much worse.
At this point Brads mom/dad and two sisters are now refusing to come to our party.
His ex started out the day yesterday telling us she would not bring the kids to drop them off when I got out of work (court appointed time) after fighting with her all day about it, we gave up and did the rest of the running around and shopping. At about 7pm his ex called his parents and told them we didn't want the kids, that we are refusing to pick them up, and that we told her we didn't want them at our party . . . . WTF?! We have scheduled family pictures at sears for ALL 6 of us at 3pm . . . I bought his daughter and son brand new outfits and shoes for the party. We set the party date on the weekend we get them . . . yeah we really didn't want them at the party?! His younger sister (who I despise already) drove an hour to pick them up. In the meantime his mom called and said she was going to take the kids away from him because we feel they are an inconvenience and we could care less about them . . . . again WTF? She went on and on about how F*ed up it is that we are not taking them to NC next week (his ex wouldn't let us take them that long even if we wanted to) . . . Then she starts in about how we know his kids are being abused and are doing nothing about it . . . . WTF? A couple days ago I straight up turned his ex in to child protective services and pretty much got back the "I'm sorry your life sucks, but she is their mother" e-mail response. When his sister picked them up, they had been sitting in the car (windows down) in 80F weather wearing long sleeves and pants. They both have bandages all over (stomach, feet, legs) and our claiming they "beat each other up" . . . . They are 4 and 5? His sister brought them over last night and was standing in the doorway (keep in mind I was standing in the KITCHEN on the other side of the house) and starts copping and attitude about how we need to do something about the kids being abused and how we don't care enough about them in the first place (the entire time rolling her eyes) I pretty much (from the kitchen) got out the words "I don't mean to sound like a bitch but" and she was out the door crying hysterically and yelling that she did nothing wrong. About 5 minutes later We get a call from Brad's mom bitching us out that I got in his sisters face and THREATENED her!!!! WTF!!!! That turned into a screaming match with his mom about how Brad should just give the kids up to the ex and how much he doesn't care about his children. She was going on and on about the things his ex told her and how his ex is going to take the kids away from us. Then they said they were not coming to the party tonight . . . GOOD, because if his sister shows up I am going to show her what it's like for me to get into her face. GRRRRR!!!! AHHHH!!!! lol

So just told off my sister in law . . . she just sent brad a text out of nowhere telling him to have fun walking to the airport next week because she sure as hell isn't taking us . . .


Ok, what was the point of this? It wasn't even 8am yet at that point.
I sent her a "nice" little text that if she really wants me to get in her face she should just keep up this bulls*.

AHHHH This is exactly why I didn't bother with an actual wedding.

well sounds like a mess!

Oh my god.

I was in the middle of the lake on a boat when you texted me, wrestling Wesson and two adult-childen (husband and friend).

I saw the pictures of the reception and they turned out beautiful!

What is Brad doing about all this?

They were not supposed to show up to the party . . . in walks all of them including his crazy sister. His mom and dad both ignored me all night. Didn't even say hello. His sister proceeded to glare and roll her eyes at me all night. After finishing my bottle of wine, I decided it was the perfect time to glare back. She instantly started crying and yelling. At that point (There were about two tables in between us) I started screaming at her in front of everyone. They left pretty quickly after that one . . . Brad had to pull me into the kitchen until they left. This past weekend sealed the deal. We were checking out rentals and job market down in NC all last night.

im sorry you have such crazy in-laws but yay for moving to NC where about are you thinking?

What's going to happen with his kids though?

If you guys are serious, let me know. I'll do what I can if you're checking out my area.

We are 150% sure.
We are going to tell her to either give us the kids during school or during summer. If she refuses we are already paying her over 100 dollars more for child support as if we didn't see them at all already. Brad will no longer have the post income, so she can pay to take us back to court and end up with less money and never have anyone to watch the kids. She will cave sooner or later and just hand them over.

http://www.forrent.com/apartment-community-profile/1042657.php

We are liking this (mostly because of the price)

We are thinking Cary, NC.

Do you know how the schools and stuff are there?

Isn't there someone that can enforce the custody? Doesn't she HAVE to give you the kids on the scheduled days? (I don't know how it fully works)

Why won't Brad have the income?

Because we would be moving . . . right now he gets about 300 from the post a month BUT her lawyer told the judge he makes over 1000 a month. He would still get his VA money when we moved. He would just need to go to the VA hospital down there instead

Ahhhh ok.

I'm liking Cary the more I do research on it!!

Cary is very nice but more expensive.

It would be Whitefish Bay to Milwaukee. Very high-end.

Nice though if you can find something!

http://www.forrent.com/apartment-community-profile/1000004938.php

I like this because if I had a 4th bedroom I can set up an in house photo studio!

Even if we got a bigger two bedroom for now and put a divider in the middle it would work for the kids until I got a stable job and settled in.

It would be just you guys and Brayden and Natalee right?

That's not a bad place. You're definitely wayyy the hell out in the burbs though.

You'd be about 20 minutes from Raleigh and 20 or so from Durham. Areas to look at for work are Raleigh, Durham, Chapel Hill. What are you looking at doing for work?

I'd go with a short-lease apartment until you can get more familiar with the area. Maybe a 6 month or something until you know for sure where you want to be in the area.

Also, Hwy 40 (zoom in on google maps) Tom Bradshaw Fwy and Dan K Moore Fwy are bad for traffic in the am for the next year or so. They're re-doing 4 lanes of traffic (2 each way) so it looks like I-94 on rush hour in the mornings and afternoons.

Yeah I'm thinking that's a good idea!
Hopefully we will get a general feel for some of the areas when we come this week.
I kind of want to be out in the burbs though lol
It takes me about 30 minutes to get to work now.
I am probably going to look for something office related.

There's TONS of offices.

Raleigh, Cary, Durham, North Raleigh will all be your best bet.

Just keep in mind that Cary is the most expensive area.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cary,_North_Carolina

The acronym is Containment Area for Relocated Yankees.

The average income is $111,000 for families. Expensive.

Yeah I was meaning to say Clayton
Although the cheapest apartments I was finding were in Cary!

Clayton has more houses since it's a small town.

Garner is the same...I pretty much live in the only major apartment complex in the town.

Knightdale isn't bad. I would look in the north Raleigh area (area between 440 and 540 beltloop) or on the bottom of I-40 (Close to Cary/Garner) but stay away from Tryon Road or Saunders. Those roads are in not-so-nice areas. Capital Blvd is like your Hwy 100. Glenwood is pretty nice. Locate Crabtree Valley Mall and the areas around there are VERY nice to live in...not sure how rent is though ($)

What about Fayetteville?

GHETTO.

It's a military town. It's what you make of it but I wouldn't live there voluntarily

It's home to Ft Bragg and Pope AFB. Anything around it is run down and not so nice. Plus your job-hunting probably wont go so smooth since every Army wife in the 50 mile radius will be wanting your job.



And I would NEVER make Brad (former Marine) live in an Army city.